I'm not sure if the term 'small talk' is used on a wide scale or not but as far as I know it is a common term.
*to the point*
I've never been much for 'small talk'. This is probably because of the prayers of my mother and the habits of my father. My mom prayed she wouldn't have a problem with a teenage girl using the phone. My dad seldom ever uses the phone unless he is talking to family.
Because of my lack of interest in the phone and my swift satisfaction with just being in the presents of those I care for I have had little need to develop 'conversation starters'. It has always been okay to tell a short story about my day because the people I associate with generally care about my day or were a part of it at sometime or another. Random outburst of thoughts, ideas, and such are common and returned with happy banter.
Now that I'm out and about in the real world that has expanded beyond my family and close high school friends I have a void to fill. Especially when it comes to 'dating' or just one on one time with a guy friend. Girls don't mind if you ramble a little as long as they get the chance to as well. But I always feel sorry for the guy after I leave. I didn't know what to say to trigger a decent conversation without long pauses and empty time. I mean he can only sit there and look at me for so long before he needs something else to entertain him. I know guys in general like you to ask about what they are interested in but how do you get them to expound?
So what do I say? What are some common but good conversation starters? Things that don't start and end with my talking about myself. The point is to get to know the other person better...start with small talk and become a conversation. Do you have a problem with 'small talk'? Do you find is very easy to start a conversation and continue it?
Teresia M. Simmons
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