My best friend is one of those people who doesn't bother remembering her address. She is never in the same place for more than a couple years. Her record is 5 years in one place. I'm sitting on her floor right now surrounded by boxes and tape. This is her 8th move since I've known her. We met in 8th grade and we've been out of school for 2 years. So basically 8 moves in seven years...not counting the back and forth from college. She is moving again in 2 months to go to school in south Alabama.

What tha devil! I probably wouldn't have been in half of the places I have if it were not for moving her all over the place. I've seen things and gone places just to help make her more comfortable with a new area. Considering that most of my high school friends have only moved once since grad and I don't have contact with them I think the fact that she and I still talk is a testament to our friendship.

She is like a sister to me. I roll with the moving vans to wherever they may take her. I plan on having my own place in a few months and she will probably take the time to come and help me pack all my stuff and get settled in.

*I'll let you know*

We were just talking about writing and I got the urge to blog so now you know what I'm doing lol.

laters

Teresia M. Simmons

I'm not sure if the term 'small talk' is used on a wide scale or not but as far as I know it is a common term.

*to the point*

I've never been much for 'small talk'. This is probably because of the prayers of my mother and the habits of my father. My mom prayed she wouldn't have a problem with a teenage girl using the phone. My dad seldom ever uses the phone unless he is talking to family.

Because of my lack of interest in the phone and my swift satisfaction with just being in the presents of those I care for I have had little need to develop 'conversation starters'. It has always been okay to tell a short story about my day because the people I associate with generally care about my day or were a part of it at sometime or another. Random outburst of thoughts, ideas, and such are common and returned with happy banter.

Now that I'm out and about in the real world that has expanded beyond my family and close high school friends I have a void to fill. Especially when it comes to 'dating' or just one on one time with a guy friend. Girls don't mind if you ramble a little as long as they get the chance to as well. But I always feel sorry for the guy after I leave. I didn't know what to say to trigger a decent conversation without long pauses and empty time. I mean he can only sit there and look at me for so long before he needs something else to entertain him. I know guys in general like you to ask about what they are interested in but how do you get them to expound? 

So what do I say? What are some common but good conversation starters? Things that don't start and end with my talking about myself. The point is to get to know the other person better...start with small talk and become a conversation. Do you have a problem with 'small talk'? Do you find is very easy to start a conversation and continue it?  

Teresia  M. Simmons